Have you ever noticed how people quite often will say the opposite of what they mean? I don't mean in a sarcastic way either. I'm talking about when people actually believe the they're speaking the truth about themselves when they clearly are not.
Let me give you a few examples:
"I don't mean to tell you how to do your job but..." and then they tell you how to do your job.
"Let me be the first to say that I am all about technology but... " and then they say how they don't understand why we should use digital xyz instead of paper print outs.
"I'm not racist or anything but..." and then the most racist thing you've ever heard pours out of their mouth.
I think people lie to themselves to help reinforce the lie. I've noticed this several times with people who come to learn Karate but have had almost all of their training from one other school. They'll often say something like "I'm just here to learn." Or "I'm not here to prove anything." Usually they quit after just a couple of classes. Why? I have no idea, but I have a theory.
They don't actually want to learn something new, but instead want to have what they've already learned reinforced because they already believe what they've learned is the "best".
Now, because I'm self-centered, I look at this "opposite speach" and wonder what I'm lying to myself about. I mean, I already know that I'm the most handsome, awesomest, greatest person on the planet. Those are just understood facts, but what if there's something I "know" about myself that isn't true?
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